A DIARY OF A 19 YEAR OLD MOTHER

In March 2011, it was on a Monday i found out that i was pregnant. I went to the Doctor to go check what was going on with me as i was not feeling well at the time, little did i know that i am going to find out that there’s a baby growing inside of me and that my life was going to change forever.

WHAT THIS EXPERIENCE MEANT FOR ME
I didn’t know what that meant for me and for my life. I was fresh from high school and i had taken a gap year to to find myself and to think carefully about what i wanted to study. Being pregnant was never part of my plans, it was never something that i wanted for myself at point of life more especially at 19 years but everything happens for a reason that’s what a I told myself and  at that time i was left to figure out what was the reason for me to be pregnant at 19 years.

I was scared but then again i was disappointed in myself. I asked myself a lot of questions, i had to think a lot about my future and the future of a human being that was growing inside of me. I had to think about what steps to take as I was going to be a mother. I knew that things were going to change and I had to step in a different me, i had to make drastic decisions about my life and i had to think like someone who was preparing to welcome a life and prepare myself for motherhood.

I’d be lying if i tell you that things were easy, nothing was easy during my pregnancy. I cried a lot, i was mad at myself, i was mad at the world and lastly I was more mad at the person who impregnated me. He was not there for me, he didn’t offer any form of support and i was all alone with the support from my mother of course.

WHAT I THOUGHT ABOUT THE SITUATION
I used to think that God was punishing me. As a Christian i believe that everything good is a gift from God and that the child I was carrying in my womb was a gift from God. The gift that God blessed me with at the age of 19 didn’t feel like a gift it felt more like a curse in my life at that time. I did not understand why i was a mother at that prime time of my life. I was wondering why the most beautiful experience woman take pride to  experience and to share it with the world was my reality and a part of my story at the age of 19. Why did i have to go though this experience alone? I asked. without the help of someone who impregnated.

I was contemplating with my thoughts every day. I cried, i cried so much because a part of me felt like it was the end of my life. I didn’t know what the future held for me.
I had to change a lot of plans i had for myself, everything that i wanted to do, had to be put on hold. I had to put my studies on hold and focus on the baby that i was carrying, my well-being and prepare myself to welcome my baby to the world.

HOW I GOT TREATED BY PEOPLE
One thing i didn’t like about being pregnant was the shame that came with being pregnant at a young age. People were looking at me like i was nothing and that i was a bad influence to other young girls. I was seen as someone who didn’t have good morals or who was not raised properly. People obviously had a lot to say about me they thought everything they wanted to think and said everything that they wanted to say and there was nothing I could do because everyone is entitled to their own opinions.
All of that didn’t define me because i knew who i was.

HOW I FOUND ACCEPTANCE
after all the sadness the roller-coaster of emotions and a lot of confusion, i found acceptance. It was as if God was telling me that he’s got my back and him confirming to me that everything is going to be okay.

THE BIRTH OF MY SON
My boy was born on the 25th September 2011. The first time i held him in my arms, i felt a different kind of love, my first time laying my eyes on my baby’s beautiful innocent face, i felt like there was a gap that was closed which i never knew existed. I got introduced to the true love of my life and got to know what real love felt like, to love without conditions. The love that was so sincere, so pure and so fulfilling. All the worries i had were suddenly none existence, i was in the world of pure bliss, i got lost in the eyes of a beautiful soul. Only a mother will understand this feeling.

MY TAKE ON MOTHERHOOD
Motherhood has strengthened me, it has made me patient, it has pushed me to go out of my comfort zone and be in places i never knew i would be in. I appreciate the grow that comes with being a mother and the learning never stops, everyday we learn something new. I’ve failed, I’ve done it wrong and went back to correct myself and try do it again differently and do it the right way. Well i am pedantic this is why i had to check myself a lot of times because i knew that i wanted my son’s experience of life to be different from the one i had.  There’s been a lot of moments that I will always treasure my favorite one is being clueless and not  knowing what do, you get a lot of those moments when you are a new mother now can you imagine how it is when you are 19 years old and not knowing if you doing it right or wrong because there’s no manual that comes with being a mother you figure it all out by yourself.

The other thing that motherhood did is to keep me grounded, being a mother changed a lot of things about me most which i am grateful of. So when you are a mother you are a multifaceted character you’re not just a mother you are a teacher too, you instill principles and values, you provide guidance, you protect, and you teach. You comfort, you praise and you restore hope. I am happy to be raising a beautiful body. I am excited about a lot that’s coming our way. I am raising a young loving boy who reminds me everyday that i am worthy to experience his greatness, his love and his special talents. I am happy to see him grow and to see him becoming more of himself. He brings light to my life, he is the core of my heart. I love everything that he is.

REFLECTIONS
I look back and reflect to the 19 year old me who was fearful, disappointed and low and i can now boldly say this journey has strengthened me, it has introduced me to my truer self and  I can’t have it any other way but the way that it has happened.  To the 19 year old me that was fragile, you are doing a great job, you are an amazing mother and i am proud of you.

SPECIAL ADVICE
Being a mother at a young doesn’t mean it is the end of you, the end of your life and your dreams.
Mistakes happens pick yourself up, learn from your mistakes and carry on with life there’s so much greatness on the other side of life.

Unwanted pregnancy can be prevented visit your nearest health facilities to learn more about pregnancy preventative measures.

God loves you.

PRINCIPLES TO LIVE BY


Do you have personal guidelines in life that you live by? What steps do you take in your life to help and guide you in your everyday living?

I’d like to share with you a list of important principles to live by in life. This is a collection of important life lessons I’ve learned in life and it relates to handling fear, staying motivated, thinking positively and dealing with emotions. These are the things that worked for me, and has helped me grow and become a better person. Life can get a bit overwhelming and this is the reason why you need to have important  principles set to help and guide you through life.  Having principles will help you not go astray, stay focused and in align with how you want to live your life.

BE YOURSELF
It is better to be yourself, to be the best version of yourself than the best version of someone else. Life is too short to be anything but yourself.
Embrace yourself and everything that you are and give yourself the first rate of yourself.

LOVE FULLY
Love more, love have no limits and conditions, love not just people you care about love everybody. Love yourself even more, self love is essential and many of life’s successes results from self love. Tap into your deeper side of emotions and allow yourself to love fully.

KNOW YOURSELF
It is important to know yourself, spend time with yourself, look deeper inward and know what kind of a person you are, what you want and don’t want, what your weaknesses and strengths are and what special gifts you have. Know how to use your talents in the best way possible. You should know that you are a powerful being and you can do and be anything you want to be.

PERSONAL GROWTH
Everyday is an opportunity for us to learn therefore you should immerse yourself in inspiring content that encourages you to become someone of character. Develop good life changing habits and be the best that you can ever be. There is so much a person can be because we are multifaceted beings we can do and be more than we think.

DON’T LIMIT YOURSELF
Don’t limit yourself to one thing, there’s so much that you can do. A lot of people don’t understand this, there can be a lot of versions of yourself and that’s got to show how powerful you are as a human being. You are multifaceted, you have special powers and you are unstoppable. Try new things, have multiple things to do and see what works for you. Find yourself by creating magic and exploring many ways of doing things. Don’t tie yourself to one way of living, unleash your greatest and be a powerful force.

ACT OF SERVICE
Show kindness, if you have the means to help others do so with kindness. Be kind everyday, do little acts of service to help those around you and anyone that needs help. This can be you helping someone carry their grocery bags, sharing your food with someone and saying please when you ask and thank you when you are in the receiving end. The list of things you can do is endless these are some of the things you can do. Look around you there’s someone who is in need of kind and generous gestures from you.

BELIEFS
Your beliefs influences your life more than you think they do. If you want to experience the best life that you think you deserve switch your beliefs system and immerse your empowering beliefs. Most of the things you say are usually more to do with your internal beliefs and the issues you battle with in the inside than to do with the outside and what people say.

ACTION
Take action of your life and be a responsible person. You are responsible for your own self and your own actions, everything that you do whether it is good or bad have consequences and that is the reflection of your actions. Choose to act right and If you want to do something, do it because there is no one that will do it for you but you.

ATTITUDE IS IMPORTANT
Your attitude is important because it defines your life, your attitude also influences a lot in your life. How you treat people and how you show up in life all this is determined by the attitude you have. Develop a positive attitude by approaching life with a positive mindset.

THINK POSITIVELY
Be mindful of your thoughts and don’t let them consume you. Think uplifting thoughts and be optimistic about everything. Be positive in every situation that you face in life. Motivate yourself on a daily basis and be vigilant with your thoughts. Positive thinking and attitude will get you far in life.

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THE LOVE I KNOW I DESERVE

February is known to be the month of love because of Valentines.
Valentines that is celebrated on the 14th of February every year. This day is mostly celebrated by couples who are romantically in love. Love is a beautiful thing, it is a gift that God gave to all of us, for us to love ourselves, to share the love both platonically and romantically. All of us deserve to experience true and unconditional love but i strongly believe that there is no love better and more real than self love.

WHAT IS SELF LOVE?

Self love is endlessly loving and accepting yourself with all of your imperfections. It is being aware of your weaknesses and embracing everything that you are. Self love is being selfless and being able to love others just as you love yourself, it is to celebrate people for who they are and not for what you want them to be, it is showing kindness to other’s and being able to help other people when/where you can. When you love your yourself the right way you take care of yourself, you take care of your heart, your soul, your spirit, your mind and your body.  You actually take care of everything that is you. You handle yourself with delicacy and care, you’re patient with yourself and that reflects from inside out. Self love is in the way you treat people, how you and speak to them. Love is complex and it’s meaning differs from one person to another and from one experience to another.

The love that you seek from others is the love that you should give to yourself first. There is a famous saying that “you can’t pour from an empty cup” with this being said love is a powerful tool and being able to love your yourself and to fall in love with yourself everyday is important. There is no one on this earth that can love you the same way that you love yourself besides God therefore it is essential to love yourself the same way that God loves us. When you love yourself you know how you want others to love you, you are more self-aware,  you don’t want approval nor validation from others because you know your true self, embrace and celebrate yourself.

WHAT IS GOD’S LOVE FOR US

1 CORINTHIANS 13:3
I may give away everything i have, and even give up my body to be burnt – but if i have no love, this does me no good.

1CORINTHIANS 13:4
Love is patient and kind; it is not jealous or conveited or proud, love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritable, love does not keep a record of wrongs, love is not happy with evil, but is happy with the truth. Love never gives up, it’s faith, hope and patience never fails. Love is eternal.

God’s love for us is pure and what he wants from us, is for us to give love and do so purely, he wants us to open our hearts and let him in, let him love us the way we he knows it’s best for us and for us not to doubt the love he has for us.

A lot of times we seek love from ever single person but forget to seek love from God,  we build walls in our hearts for God not to get in our hearts and love us the right way. We forget that God sent his only son Jesus to die for us and for our sins. We are never satisfied with the love that God gives us and we end up settling because we are too desperate and and we are afraid of being alone because we think that man’s love is more real than God’s love.

The question is do you know your worth and the love you deserve?
Are you ready to receive the love that God wants for you?
Make a conscious decision today to open your heart and let God restore your heart and fill it with the love that he wants for you the love so easy, kind and so pure.

As we wrap up the month of love, February I write this post from a place of love, i hope you are blessed with the love you deserve and the love that Jesus wants for us.

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CONTENTMENT

Contentment is happiness with one’s place in life.
Contentment isn’t just being happy, it is more like a state of fulfillment and peace from within. For example when you are content; you might experience contentment looking forward to seeing a friend and having a conversation over a glass of water or just a thought about how your day is it can be anything actually, when you are a content person you focus more on happy events

There are people who are never happy about anything and everything  in general.  People who are always complaining and worrying about things, things like what tomorrow has for them or what does the future looks like (You can’t worry about tomorrow and the future no one knows what the future has even someone who seems like their life is well put together doesn’t know what the future holds for them).  Yes! we make plans for the future and we hope for things to go a certain way but tomorrow isn’t promised to anyone thus we wake up grateful to see another day because we are not the deciders of our lives God is.

Stop worrying it doesn’t make sense to worry about tomorrow, tomorrow isn’t here even the bible says that “do not worry about tomorrow;  for tomorrow will have enough worries of its own”. Mathew 6:34
Don’t live your life worrying about the things you can’t control and deprive yourself the opportunity to live a ligelomg happy life.

What the Bible say about Contentment?

Philippians 4:12
I know what it is to be in need and what it is to have more than enough.  I have learnt this secret, so that anywhere, at any time, i am content, whether i am full or hungry, whether i have too much or too little.

The bible says be content with what you have whether it is too much or too little just be happy and appreciate everything. Be grateful for the things you have and focus on the grace of today.

Are you happy and content with yourself and what you have?

Here are 5 steps that you can put to practice to find more Contentment in your life:

1. Be content with what you have – Be happy, find your inner peace and see good in everything.

2. Show gratitude – Be appreciative and grateful for everything you have even if its not as big as you want it to be.

3. Take control of your thoughts – Condition yourself to thinking positive always.

4. Stop comparing yourself to others ( own path own lane) – Remember that you are not in a competition with anyone so run your own race we are all destined for something in life and out life journeys are different focus on your own determination.

5. Be positive – Be lively and happy always, be positive in any situation. No matter how bad it is things always work out in the way that they are intended to…

I really hope that you find this useful and that it can somehow help you change your life and see things differently. Let us live to the fullest and create our own beautiful lives with no worries, help where we can, be selfless, show gratitude and love endlessly.

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WAYS TO HELP YOU STAY MOTIVATED

If you have been feeling discouraged, uninspired  lack enthusiasm and have been feeling like life has knocked you off well you are not alone and there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, now and then we all go through the same things.

I discovered that it is so easy for us to wake up and find ourselves struggling to be enthusiastic and passionate about the things that we love doing and the ones that we really have to do.
It can really be daunting at times when you try to work on things and you don’t get the results that you want.
We keep trying over and over, sometimes we succeed and sometimes we don’t but this shouldn’t be the reason to quit and give up on yourself and on your dreams.
There is so much to to live for, to explore and to do.  Life can be thrilling sometimes and completely overwhelming especially with the setbacks and obstacles that are perpetually occurring on our daily lives.

Here are 6 and easy steps that you can put to practice to help you get motivated.

TAKE ACTION: Be the person who takes quick decisive action and control of your life.

BE CONFIDENT: Be the person who radiates confidence, be confident in the things you do and the actions you take.

BE HAPPY: choose happiness over anything, choosing to be happy will open room for you to attract more happy events. When you are happy you feel inspired to put in the work and get things done and you do things with so much ease.

DREAM: don’t forget to dream big, create the life you want, create magic and design the life that you know yo deserve. It all start with dreaming and imagining your life.

GROW: if you are not growing you are dying, The mistakes that you do are preparing you for the life you want so learn and grow from your past mistakes.

START AGAIN: never get tired of trying again, it does not matter how many times you have failed and have fallen pick yourself up and try again.
Remember when you fall, fall on your back because if you can look up you will definitely get up.

I hope this will be helpful to some who needs to heart this at this very moment, let’s help each other to get motivated so that we can all succeed and achieve our goals.

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REFLECTING ON JANUARY 2021


I want 2021 to be different to what 2020 was. I also think i may be a little unfair for judging 2021 and not giving the year a chance to prove that it is a good year to all of us, i have no reason to judge a year by it’s first month of the year. I urge you not to do the same do not judge be positive about everything and believe that good things are coming. I am personally declaring 2021 as a year of good fortune and abundance for me.  Yes! Corona virus is still here,  it is still taking control over our lives and it is still killing and taking the lives of people we care about.  All we have to do is to remain positive, do what is required of us to do;  like complying to the Covid-19 regulations wearing masks everywhere we go, wash our hands regularly, sanitize our hands all the time and staying indoors and avoid overcrowded spaces.  Every little good decision that we take can help all of us to fight the spread of Covid-19.
The reality is that Covid-19 is a part of our lives and it is up to us to stop the sperad of the corona virus and help to save the lives of people we care about.

January has been a good month if i can say. I started the year off on a very good and a positive state of mind there were glitches here and there but nothing i couldn’t handle and i remained positive most of the time.

Every month i set goals for myself and try to work on the goals daily. Here are some of the goals i set for January 2021.

JANUARY 2021 GOALS

° Be positive all the time and practice seeing good in everything.


° Be on the Daniel fast- I successfully done that.


° I have been going to gym consistently.


° I’ve been posting on my blog regularly and i gained followers. (started the year with 4 followers on my blog and now i am on 22 followers) Thank you so much to everyone who has followed my blog.


° I have been eating clean and healthy as i intended.



There is a lot i intended to get done in January and i couldn’t make time for other things but I will try again in February because giving up is not an option.

Side note: set goals everyday, every month and whenever you can and work on your goals every day because dreams without goals are just dream. In order for you to get the things that you don’t have and never had you got to be willing to do the things that you’ve never done.

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THE DANIEL FAST

I was on the Daniel fast for 21 days and this year was the second time that I took part on the Daniel fast.  I want to share my experience with everyone, how beneficial it is to be on the Daniel fast and how it has changed my life.
First of all I would like to stress on how important and life changing the Daniel fast is. It is a good way to be closer to your God and it helps to improve your spiritual relationship with your devine power and to also grow spiritually as an individual.

In 2019 i was unemployed, sad, and in a depressive state. I went to church on the first Sunday of the year and our pastor advised that we all take part on the Daniel fast and gave us a diet plan that was recommended for us to eat during the 21 days of fasting, the scriptures to read and what to pray for.  That was the first time i embarked on the Daniel fast.  I was desperate to getting a yes from God, i then committed myself to being on the Daniel fast and was loyal throughout the 21 days of fasting.
Prior to being on the fast i had applied for a job and kept applying for all the jobs that I came across and with no response and success and i given up and lost hope (i am a parent i had rent to pay, school fees to pay, a child to feed and other responsibilities to take care on) so being unemployed was a hard thing for me and i didn’t understand why i had to go through that.
I started fasting on the 6th of January until the 26th of January 2020 and on the 28th of January 2020 i received a call that i was waiting for, for the job that i wanted for myself. The entire experience made me fear God and helped me to strengthen my faith and believe in God more. Even during the global pandemic, 2020 was a good year for me and i believe that it was  because i had mourn and spoken to God in the beginning of the year about the things that i wanted for myself.

The Daniel fast happens in the beginning of the year. 
what  happens when you’re on the Daniel fast is that you abstain from eating all luxurious food that we consume on the daily such as meat, milk and all dairy products, sweets, processed foods, spices, alcohol and eat only the food that grows from the grass such as fruits and vegetables. Water is the only beverage that is recommended during this period and all you do is to pray and mourn. Not only does the Daniel fast sets you in the right place spiritually you appear more healthier and strong.

WHERE DOES THE DANIEL FAST COMES FROM?

The Daniel fast comes from the Bible on the book of Daniel.
Please read below to get the concept of what the Daniel fats is.

“Daniel 10:2 At that time Daniel, mourned for three weeks.
Daniel 10:3 I ate no choice food; no meat or wine touched my lips; and I used no lotions at all until the three weeks were over”

NB: i recommend that you read the Bible to get a better understanding of everything.

DANIEL’S PRAYERS WERE ANSWERED

On the twenty-fourth day of the first month Daniels prayers were answered and an angel was sent to Daniel by God to tell Daniel that his prayers were answered on the first day he decided to humble himself but the angel had to fight for 21 days to get the message to Daniel.

MY PERCEPTION OF DANIEL

1. With no doubts Daniel believed in his God.
2. He is a man of authority, when he speaks people follow and do as he says.
3. Daniel was wise, loyal and skillful, he was not a greedy man and he helped willingly.
4. He had a gift of interpreting mysteries.
5. Overall Daniel was a good man of integrity.


If you have any questions please leave them on the comment section and let’s engage.
Have you ever been on the Daniel fast and how was your experience?

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ARE VISION BOARDS STILL A THING?

Are vision boards still a thing? That’s a biggest question for the day. There are people out there who might not know what a vision board is and are keen in learning and knowing more about a vision board and what it’s purpose is. For those of you who are still left in the dark and you want to know what a vision board is and if vision boards are still a thing well you are at the right place  because I have all the answers to the questions you want to know.

WHAT IS A VISION BOARD?
A vision board is a representation of your goals and aspirations for the life that you want to manifest.
It is a constant reminder for the goals you want create in real life that you want to achieve. It helps to keep you motivated and on track of what you have to do and work on. Vision boards can be changed whenever you want to change them or even when you have achieved some of your goals and want to realign your goals.

Last year, in 2020 i created my first vision board. It was simple and was not created on the actual board or paper. I used my phone to create my first vision board, I downloaded all the pictures of the things that I wanted to achieve and wrote below the pictures how i am going to achieve them.  I had positive affirmations on the side and miscellaneous items on my vision board and one of those was the type of work I wanted and the work environment in which I was seeing myself working in.
What appelled me was when i got the exact job I wanted and everything was as how i described on my vision board so if you were wondering if vision boards work i would definitely say yes they work because did i achieve some of the things that i wanted to achieve on the first vision board i created.

WHAT DO YOU NEED TO CREATE A VISION BOARD?
creating a vision board is fun, simple and easy all you need is a;
* chart, a book or an A3 sized color paper
*scissor and a glue
*color pens
*colored highlighters
*pictures and etc.
You can play around with it there really isn’t no right or wrong all you need is to be creative and be true to yourself by setting realistic goals.
All these item can be bought at your nearest retail stores and they are affordable.

Side note: You can also use your phone to create a vision board this will save you time and money. My  first vision board was created on my phone i downloaded pictures and i created my vision board on my phones note book.

DO VISION BOARDS REALLY WORK?.
Speaking from experience making a vision board works, as i mentioned before that i achieved some of the things i had on my first vision board.  Putting in the work and working towards your goals everyday and getting things done helps. Remember to keep a positive mind and energy all the time.

WHAT CAN BE ON THE VISION BOARD?
Anything can be on your vision board. You can add anything finances, body goals, Travel, your dream car, personal goals e.g relationships, family anything from your short term goals to your long term goal. Please see an example of the vision board i created for ideas.

HOW OFTEN SHOULD ONE LOOK AT A VISION BOARD?
It is important to look at your vision board as often as possible and i would recommend that you at least look at it at night and in the morning to get the full benefit from your vision board.
Please note that you have to put in the work  in order for your vision board to work for you.
The vision board is just there to motivate and inspire you to put in daily action in pursuit of the most important goals you want to achieve.

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MY 2021 GOALS

My 2021 goals are simple. This year i decided to put myself first and not pressure myself into anything all i will be doing different this year is to love me, get to know myself a little bit more better, nature me, take care of my body and soul.
Sometimes we tend to forget to live our lives to fullest because we always obsessing and stressing ourselves with a lot of things that are happening in our lives.
I made a promise to myself that i want to be fully present and i want to live my life with no worries and only focus on the grace of today and what i have.

MATTHEW,  6 verse 34
So do not worry about tomorrow; it will have enough worries of its own. There is no need to add to troubles each day brings.

This verse is a constant remind to me that i have to take it easy and take it one day at a time. This will be the verse that i live by the whole of this year and get reminded not to stress myself about anything and live in the moment but responsibly. Life is too short to be worried about the tomorrow that is not promised so live everyday as if is the first day of your life.
I do however have some goals planned for myself that I would like to achieve and see them come to life.

                  2021 GOALS


1. Lose weight  i am currently on 70,95 Kg and i want to be 60kg by the end of this year.

2. Return to God and have a good relationship with my God.

3. Buy a new book every 2nd month and read a new book every month.

4. Grow my blog and have at least 500 followers by the end this year.

5. Create good quality content and collaborate with brands.


6. Donate blood 3 times this year.


7. Go on a short-left ( Short vacation within my country).


8. Attended any empowerment events.


Be intentional with my time.


9. Be more charitable and do some charitable work.


10. Go hiking/bunjee

jumping.


These are all realistic and achievable goals i have for myself this year and i am positive about achieving everything here.
When you make a promise to yourself keep it and  don’t let fear get in the way of you being great and doing great.

Remember that you can do anything through Christ that strengthens you.

TIPS ON HOW TO BECOME A GOOD COMMUNICATOR


communication is key and the biggest tool of our daily living and our lives. In order for us to convey information we need communication and being able to communicate properly, clearly and concisely is a skill that many of us lack. It is not good not being able to communicate well with others or not being able to get the message across clearly. If you are are struggling with communication don’t worry because that can changed/fixed.

Today’s post is talking to people who think they are not good communicators. I want you to forget that you ever considered yourself a bad communicator because i have some good and useful tips for you that are going to help you become a better communicator.

When you have good communication skills you get along with people, you work well with people, you have good interpersonal relationships you get successful at anything because communication is a powerful tool.

USEFUL TIPS ON HOW TO COMMUNICATE BETTER

1. VOCABULARY –  Have a  good vocabulary (read to improve your vocabulary) when you come across a word you don’t know look it up because you can’t communicate when you don’t have words to use.

2. HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY – have knowledge and be a knowledgeable person.

3. PRACTICE – Practice to say things well (start with something simple) if you don’t know something  and how to say it practice and get better at it.

4. HAVE A GOOD DELIVERY SYSTEM – Say things in a clear and concise manner.

5. BE CALM – Be calm and composed when you are talking to people. This will help you deliver the message well.

6. MAINTAIN GOOD EYE CONTACT – It is important to maintain good eye contact when talking to people, keeping a good eye contact this is a sign of respect and it also shows that you are listening and interested in what’s being said.

7. ASK QUESTIONS – When you don’t understand ask questions, it is good to ask questions when you don’t understand to avoid misunderstandings and to also show that you are paying attention.

8. STYLE – Have a good style which you will use when you are delivering your message. It can be a tone of your voice, register or pace but have a unique style of delivering a message.

9. LISTEN – In order for you to be a good  communicator, be a good listener. Listening attentively will help you get and understand the message clearly and you will be able to respond correctly.

10. FACIAL EXPRESSIONS – Facial expressions and body language play a vital role in communication make sure that you smile and relax your face and body, when talking to people, because your body language is louder than your words and avoid giving people a wrong impression.